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WHAT BABIES IN GESTATION WOULD LIKE THEIR PARENTS TO KNOW
by Bianca Buchal
A baby is speaking from his mother’s womb:
I
am happy that you gave me the opportunity to communicate with the world, because
I have many things to say, also in the name of all children, those who are next
to be born, but also all those who will be conceived in future.
First or all I want to thank my Mommy who, with much sweetness, is sending to
me not only the substances necessary to build my body, but also her demonstrations
of tenderness manifested in various ways. I feel all these thinks, I feel that
she is loving me very much, anxiously looking forward to hold me in her arms.
I, too, would like that moment to come soon: to know her face, her scent, her
warmth. But we must both wait with patience. In the meantime I am delighted
to hear her voice, especially when she speaks to me. And, also, if she just
sends me only her thoughts, I perceive them since during this long period of
nine months we two are one being, even if at the same time we are two distinct
persons, each one with one’s own destiny and life program.
As I feel her thoughts, I perceive also her feelings and I rejoice when I know
she is serene and quiet. When she is quiet, I also can be quiet, and when I
am in a quiet state, I can better care for the building of the cells which have
to go to form all the various parts of my body. It is a hard work, but Mummy
helps me and takes care that the purest and most important substances reach
me continuously. I am very grateful for all that, also because I know all she
sends to me is impregnated with love. Her thoughts and her feelings, all are
soaked in love. In this way, I receive the best elements for building also my
psyche. Thank you Mommy !
I like it so much when she is singing for me ! I feel that listening to beautiful
music helps me to grow. My Mummy knows many beautiful songs. There are also
some very sweet lullabies, and I am sure she will sing them to me when I will
lay in my cradle. And when I will be agitated, listening to those songs I already
know will certainly calm me down, because I will understand that birth is only
a passage and a continuity from before to afterwards.
Perhaps it is just for that reason that my ears are already ready to hear; for
memorizing everything now so that I will recognize and appreciate it better
afterwards. In fact, I know all the noises of my external home: the telephone,
the vacuum cleaner, but what I like best is the voice of my Mummy, not only
when she is speaking but especially when she sings.
Five months have already passed and I participate in everything that is happening
in the surrounding world. I recognize not only Mommy’s voice but also
the deeper voice of my Daddy. I enjoy so much when he caresses me. In reality,
he caresses Mommy’s tummy, but I feel that it is his hand. It is a special
touch, and every time I feel him I am so happy ! And when he asks me to kick
his hand, that amuses me so much ! Also Mommy and Daddy feel happy because they
feel my presence, and I am even happier, because I feel to be loved and expected.
In fact, for us little babies, love is like a fundamental food.
I feel sorry for all the babies that in the past did not live such joyful moments.
Once they thought us not capable to perceive anything, not even the physical
pain. They used to say that we will be a person only after birth and considered
us a mass of cells, totally insensible. Only Mommies carried us in their hearts.
Sometimes not even they did it, but I don’t want to talk about it. It
is too sad.
Now everything is different and we must be thankful to the many scientists and
researchers who in recent years started to look into our world: Mommy’s
tummy. Now they can do it because they have certain devices we little babies
don’t like much because they are terribly noisy. Mommy and Daddy can observe
us through a little window they call “echography”. For them it is
a great emotion, because they find themselves in front of a reality that was
before only a dream. So they can observe us while we suck our thumb, we play
with our umbelical cord or while we make some movements.
Very often they can even recognize if we are a little boy or a little girl.
Usually Daddy would like to know it, while Mommy says that for her this is not
so important. It is important to know only if the child is healthy.
During this visits, the doctors observe and examine us to find out if everything
is OK. To us little babies, all this is not very pleasant; I heard somebody
saying that we will be a generations passionate of helicopters, since the echography
device makes a similar noise.
Sometimes they come with a long needle for drawing a sample of amniotic liquid,
and this is something that gives us much fear. I know that certain babies try
to push the needle away fearing to be hurt. These are all very strange things,
but Doctors say they are important.
Anyway, we must be grateful to all researchers, because it is thanks to their
discoveries that, as babies to be born, we are now considered as we deserve,
are taken into consideration and properly attended to. We too have needs, not
only the already born babies. In general, people talk always only of them, and
never of us, not aware that we represent the future of a growing and evolving
society.
One thing I like very much is when Mommy and Daddy go for a walk in the country.
On those occasions I really feel how beneficial it is for me, since I get a
lot of what they call “oxigen”. They say it is important for the
development of my brain. They say that, when the brain is well developed, this
goes to the benefit of all the other organs. As a matter of fact, I feel it
is really like that. I hope Mommy and Daddy will go often on trips to the country,
not only for myself, but also because for them it is a very beautiful and intimate
sharing: most of the time they are working, so these beautiful walks in the
country are important because the argument of their talks is always directed
to the future with their child – that is me – and this helps to
consolidate what they call “bonding”: Mommy-Daddy-Child, that will
keep us united also later. And this union gives me much quietness and a feeling
of safety because I feel that I always will have in them two great friends.
Now I feel happy to have had the opportunity to say all that: There would be
many more things to add, but I will do it next time. Oh, no, there are two more
important things I must say: one is that when I will be born, I would like Daddy
to be present, and I am sure Mommy would like it too. The umbelical cord should
be cut by Daddy and in that way to give life to our family. The second thing
is that, immediately after being born, please, let me stay with my Mommy ! Do
not take me to another room ! I need to stay with my Mommy: the change from
foetus to child is a very delicate moment. My brain has to reorganize various
functions, and if I stay with my Mommy, I will feel safe and happier. Immediately
after being born, all babies need to stay near their Mommy. So they can make
acquaintance and look at each other, something they were longing to do for months.
Everybody is asking himself: how is it possible that he understands the words
and hears what people say. As a matter of fact, it is not the meaning of the
words that arrive to me, but that stream of deep loving feelings that goes beyond
all barriers, that does not need sentences or concepts, but is something that
arrives directly to my little heart: always very sensitive and open to any good
feeling. It is in that way that I go towards life in the world with great confidence,
and I feel that I will be a creature that lives positively, with all consequences,
thanks first of all to my Mommy, but also to Daddy and to all who await my arrival
with much love.
What I would like to add is that on the chart of the children’s rights,
I would like to see mentioned also the rights of the children to be born. In
fact, we would like to point out our right to be born in a family where we have
been conceived because we were really wished for and loved even before knowing
us : a family that can give us all we need for going towards a healthy life,
full of interests and useful for ourselves, for our family and for the whole
society. In that way, life will be better for everybody.
We little babies don’t need much, we need only to be loved, because for
us love is food.
And if we receive much love today, later we will return it in a much bigger
quantity, for the well being of the whole world.
With much gratitude
A prenatal baby
The words of the baby in gestation reflect the principles of A.N.E.P.-Italia
– National Association for Prenatal Education. The task of the mentioned
Association is to collect the result of studies made all over the world in order
to pass the information to the public, but first of all to parents. The discussion
is very rich and fascinating.
There are many researchers and scientists who have been exploring for years
the intrauterine life as well as all what concerns the baby before birth. Everyone
should be informed about this new science. The ignorance of the past is no longer
tolerant, especially if one considers that prenatal life represents the basis
of the rest of every individual’s existence. That is why the prenatal
period has to be considered as determinant.
Advised
books :
- Thomas Verny – Nurturing the unborn child
- - The secret life of the unborn child
- David Chamberlain – Babies remember birth
- - The mind of your newborn baby
- Peter W.Nathanielsz – Time to be born
- Jack Heinowitz – Pregnant fathers : Entering Parenthood Together.
- Jill Hopkins – Welcoming the Soul of a Child

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